Holiday Tips for Families Raising Autistic Children

The holidays can be a stressful time for adults and children, particularly those with autism. These tips will help your family navigate the season so you can create wonderful memories.

By Amanda Taylor, Director of Clinical Operations

The holidays are a time of joy and celebration, but they can also present challenges for families raising autistic children. From changes in routines to sensory overload, the season’s festivities may feel overwhelming at times. However, with thoughtful planning and a focus on your child’s unique needs, the holidays can be a time of connection and cherished memories. 

This guide offers practical tips to help your family make the most of the holiday season. From maintaining routines to creating sensory-friendly experiences, these strategies are designed to reduce stress and make the holidays a joyful time for everyone. 

Prepare Ahead of Time 

Prepare your child in advance by explaining what to expect. Use visual aids and role-playing through different scenarios they might encounter. You can also help your child feel included by involving them in holiday preparations. Whether it’s decorating, baking, or wrapping presents, allowing them to participate in their own way can make them feel empowered and connected to the festivities. 

Holidays can disrupt your child’s routine and feel overwhelming. Stay flexible with your expectations and offer plenty of choices to help them maintain a sense of control. This even includes your holiday traditions. While they can be an important part of the holiday season, they may need to be adapted to fit your child’s needs. Consider quieter alternatives to loud events or modify activities to make them more enjoyable for your family. The goal is to create meaningful moments without added stress. 

While the holidays often involve activities outside your child’s usual routine, maintaining some consistency can make a big difference. If your child enjoys a specific snack every day, ensure they still have it. If they rely on a favorite toy or activity, make time for it. These familiar routines can bring a sense of calm and normalcy to an otherwise busy, out-of-routine day.  

The holidays often come with louder noises, brighter lights, and busier environments than usual. Prepare for these sensory experiences by bringing tools like noise-canceling headphones, sunglasses, or sensory toys. When attending gatherings or events, build in regular breaks to give your child time to decompress in a quiet space. 

Visual aids, such as calendars, picture schedules, or event maps, can help your child understand and anticipate holiday activities. Seeing what’s planned for the day – whether it’s decorating, a meal, or a gathering – can make transitions smoother and reduce feelings of unpredictability. 

Holidays can be overstimulating, but having a designated quiet area can make a big difference. At home or during events, create a retreat where your child can take a break if they feel overwhelmed. Fill the space with comforting items like a favorite blanket or stuffed animal to help them relax. 

Too many changes in the home environment can feel overwhelming. If it helps, opt for minimal decorations and subdued lighting to keep your space festive yet familiar. This can help your child feel more at ease while still enjoying the holiday spirit. 

Familiar items like a favorite toy, blanket, or sensory tool can provide reassurance in new or bustling environments. These comfort items act as anchors, offering a sense of stability wherever you go. 

Holidays can bring unexpected challenges, so it’s important to set realistic expectations. Focus on small successes and celebrate what feels achievable for your child, whether it’s enjoying a family meal or spending a short time at an event. 

Comfort is key for creating positive holiday experiences. Let your child wear clothing that feels good to them, even if that means opting for pajamas during family photos or casual attire for holiday dinners. 

By embracing flexibility, preparation, and understanding, your family can create a holiday season that celebrates togetherness while understanding your child’s unique needs. The most meaningful moments can come from adapting traditions and finding joy in the little things. 

Here’s to a peaceful, joyful, and memorable holiday season for you and your loved ones!